Season 2: The Greener Grass, Where You Want to be
Ep. 8: Don’t Lie, We All Judge
We always say we don’t judge people, but everyone does it. It is part of our cognitive reasoning to judge and make decisions based on our surroundings, to judge whether our surroundings are safe or not. Don’t judge too soon or judge a book by its cover.
In this episode we share a couple stories from our lives that show how judging someone based on first impressions or looks can be very wrong from the true character or personality of the person.
Josiah shares a story of a coworker who has long hair, long facial hair, lots of tattoos, and rides a Harley. He says he is one of the nicest guys he has ever met. He admits he never would have thought that without working with him and getting to know him. He says he looks very rough and tough and didn’t judge him too early by only his appearance, but rather got to know him and found out he is super nice and hilarious.
Steven shares a story of when he and Josiah worked together at a warehouse. There was another coworker that later admitted that she once thought Steven was a stuck up kid with nice clothes and belongings. She judged based on a first impression that Steven wore jeans and a nice sweater every day to a warehouse job. She later apologized for her misconception after getting to know Steven better and actually became good friends.
When we look at someone we try to put them in a category or stereotype. Often times we label people by the first impression we get of them. These are often wrong because someone’s appearance doesn’t determine their personality or character.
If you see someone in public that is wearing nasty dirty clothes and looks like slob what do you think? Do you think they are homeless or a lower class and don’t have anything? What if they are very hard workers and are dirty and have dirty clothes due to their job working hard for their living? They could be the nicest person you meet, but you may not know if you judge them to be poor or homeless rather than being a hard worker.
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